If you’ve ever experienced social anxiety then you’ll relate to this post. If not, then maybe it can give you a little insight to what someone with this type of problem experiences in life.
You’ve been asked to attend an event where there will be many people you’ve never met before. This creates an immense amount of anxiety within you. You feel it, physically. Heart palpitations, dizziness, shakiness, at just the thought of it. You create a scenario in your mind of how it will be once you get there. And it’s not very pretty. The worst that could happen is all you can think about. You worry about stumbling over your words, or stumbling over something on the floor and becoming intensely embarrassed in front of so many people. Afraid of other people seeing you eat for fear that a piece of food will get stuck on your lip. You fear your face showing the redness when someone asks you a question in front of a group of people.
You’re ready to leave to attend this event. You’ve worked yourself up so much that you almost feel sick at your stomach. You secretly wish you could somehow come up with a good enough excuse to get out of it. The only comforting thought you have at the time is thinking about how you could just say you got sick and couldn’t make it there. One quick comforting moment of getting out of having to go. But you know you can’t bring yourself to do that either. You’ve already accepted this invitation. Sometimes just out of obligation, other times it’s because you know it’s the only way to reach your goals.
Know that you are not alone in this problem. There are more people than you realize in this same boat with you. The main thing is to not beat yourself up over it. You are okay. Everyone has some kind of weakness they have to deal with in life. This is yours. And it’s just a matter of accepting yourself as you are, flaws and all. Be kind to yourself and patient too.
Feel the feelings but make a choice to continually put forth the effort to overcome as much as you can. Have a little talk with yourself before any event that makes you feel anxious. Tell yourself “I’m okay. I will get through this just fine. It’s okay if I feel anxious or scared. I’m allowed to but at the same time I choose to focus on my strengths. I choose to focus on those things that make me feel confident and motivated. Focus on those things that make me feel good and excited about something I’m looking forward to.”
Keep going, don’t give up! Keep working on letting go of the fears and worries. They’re just feelings and thoughts. And remember, you are never alone.
In the Positive Zone